Alan Cummings explains how gay people make straight marriage better-- be open!

"The greatest thing queer people can teach heterosexual people about marriage is how to have sex outside of it."

Then why bother being married?

Does he think hets have never done that? The difference is they don't going around telling everyone about it.

Another gay with an open marriage agenda. Why are people like Ricki Martin and this dip shit desperate to convert people into their way of thinking. Damn, jut live your life.

It’s like they need outside validation for their self-serving decision making skills.

Funny that most guys didn't talk about this during the campaign for marriage equality

You do you, Alan, but please stop lecturing others with different preferences. Thanks!

What was the point of passing gay marriage when these cunts (Alan, Ricky) are pushing for open marriages i.e. fucking around? Gay people spent years convincing straights that gay relationships are just as sacred as straight relationships and now these cunts turn back the clock with this bullshit.

R8 they are convinced they are doing it correctly. They are enlightened. And eventually everyone else will see the light

Alan can't be tied down by gay marriage , as a rampant bisexual he craves pussy all the time.

This fucking whore spread STDs all over Manhattan while he was doing Cabaret in the 90s. Big surprise he can't keep it in his pants for his husband. I'm sure the husband doesn't give a fuck since he's likely a golddigger.

Straight actors in Hollywood are too smart to openly blab about such arrangements. They know it makes them look shallow and cynical to their fans and plus why does anyone outside their inner circle really need to know?

Just as "sacred" as straight marriages r8? Newsflash. Marriage has never really been about monogamy. Sleeping with other people was widespread throughout human history. The gays are just honest about it.

Honest, yes. Also, stupid.

god he is grossssssssssss !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

he aint gay he is just tackyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy.

That's not what gays said when they pushing for gay marriage, R13.

WHO WANTS TO SMACK THAT SMART ALEC LOOK OFF HER FACE ???

He has a very punchable face. He's the male version of Gwyneth. Always shooting that "I'm so much better than you" smirk.

What does gay and straight people having the same legal rights to marriage have to do with this r16...? I don't even understand what you are going on about

R19 is dumb so people have to explain things slower and slower.

When gay marriage was being pushed, the narrative was that gay relationships were as "sacred" as straight relationships. Gays just wanted to be married and monogamous and raise adorable kids in suburbia. It was all about being respected and having dignity. Remember the backlash when Larry King asked Bette Midler what she thought of gay marriage and she was against it because gays just wanted to fuck around?

But now that gay marriage has passed we have whores like Alan and Ricky running around not only shitting on the concept of marriage (despite both being married) but also pushing the narrative that gay men don't care for marriage and instead just want to fuck around.

I guess gay marriage was all about tax purposes. How adorable.

R20 marriage has always been a conservative institution. There's a movement to make it not so.

Alan is thinking with old stereotyped views that all gays want to do is screw around all the time whether married or single. He's a poor spokesman for any type of sexual movement.

It doesn't compute because I don't look at non-monogamous marriages as any lesser than (supposed) monogamous marriages r20. I get that might be hard for you to understand. It in no way "shits on the concept of marriage" for me.

But I get that is hard for you since want to tell other people that their relationships are wrong because they are living their lives by your own sense of morality.

Who were the main faces of gay marriage? Dan Savage, Andrew Sullivan etc. Recent studies have shown that younger gay guys are more likely to be monogamous than ever and have fewer sexual partners (more closely matching their straight counterparts)

He looks like an evil Sheldon Cooper in OP's pic.

This is the problem with celebrity spokespeople, if they are famous for tap dancing do we really need to hear their views on anything else? Cumming is entitled to his opinion and choose to conduct his marriage as he sees fit but it has no bearing on anyone else, I don't feel my marriage is invalidated because he likes to fuck around. As earlier posters have said younger gays who have not known the horrors of growing up gay in darker times have a totally different idea of sexuality and relationships than those of Cumming's vintage.

I don't mind people in open marriages. But I get annoyed by people who claim monogamy is not achievable or somehow regressive or too common or too heteronormative or antiquated and unworthy of gay men

Maybe some gay people being open about it will make straight couples feel more comfortable "coming out of the closet" about not being monogamous r12.

Look at how judgemental people are about the way other people live their lives, we still have a ways to go.

[quote]But I get annoyed by people who claim monogamy is not achievable or somehow regressive or too common or too heteronormative or antiquated and unworthy of gay men

Agreed. It is not right when either people judge the way people live their relationships. If you want to be monogamous more power to you, if you want to be swingers more power to you. It is their relationship.

R21 If you don't like the idea of marriage, don't get married and leave everyone else alone.

It's like fighting to be part of a club and then, once you're in, admitting you don't give a shit about the club and you want to completely change it into something else. What's the point other than to be a troublemaker?

Why do we assume that straight people need our advice anymore then we need theirs?

His name is Alan Cumming........no "s"

Actually , I prefer Alan going........

This is pretty funny. I think heterosexuals have already figured out that whole sex-outside-of-marriage thing. In fact, I think they have it down cold.

Alan comes off like those women who think they invented motherhood. How ever would we have gotten along without their great insights?

Absolutely R34 . The difference in the gay sex outside marriage thing is the supposed honesty, however I've yet to meet an open gay couple who are really honest, the rules are frequently broken ( no sleeping with same guy twice, not in marital bed etc ) and it often turns into a competition. Perhaps we need to take a leaf out of the straights' book, as nobody seems to be able to keep it in their pants, maybe the old fashioned lying/turning a blind eye way is better for us flawed humans.

This bothers the hetero-pleasing gays, so good for him!

R37 hates straights so much he's willing to slit his own gay throat just to argue.

I think he only claims to be bisexual to please the heteros R37

I don't think he's bi. A hetero beard marriage for career in the early days perhaps but he's a bonafide dick hound who probably got married again because it was the trendy thing to do and makes him seem staid and stable to the Good Wife Frau fans. Does he give mainstream interviews where he talks about fucking around on the hubby or is it only shows like Watch What Happens which nobody watches?

If he got married to seem "staid and stable" to his frau fans then why is he publicly talking about his extramarital affairs? Does he think that appeals to fraus? He would have been better off staying single.

nothing makes me flip the channel faster than the sight of that dum ass queen.

BE GONE OLD HAG AND THY DEVIL GRIN OF SANCTIMONY AND DRY CUMWADS

Way past time for that old queen to put a stopper in it.

It's always elder gays (and generally former closet cases) coming out with these shitty opinions - Dan, Alan, Ricky, you all have deep issues with your sexuality and that's why you're incapable of a healthy, monogomous relationship.

I liked his autobiography but lately he seems stupider than he used to be. He seems like he thinks he is some sexual orientation spokesman or guide of some sort, but he's all over the map and comes off like boiler plate showbiz on talk shows. I think he's on drugs.

Doesn't he front a night club now also? His life is much more exotic than most, hanging out with Joey Arias and the elderly club kids.

arggggh

the sound of his voice and the look of his face

why must we look at him on pbs ??? a channel I used to respect.

he needs to play a rat faced serial killer who never smiles, not the constant saccharine queen roles. even in cabaret he was pure smarm

Open relationship = someone who never had really good sex in their whole life so they think they need to keep looking.

R27 But that's not even logical. The one who grew up in the darker times shoud have been more careful about sex, not less.

Anyway, marriage in general is a thing of the past. It's not about love at all, it's a social arrangement to make kids legal and stuff. No one needs it anymore, since women work now, and gay men never needed it to begin with, it was just a symbol of equality.

If I were his husband I’d want to have open relationship too.

R49, it is too logical. The older crowd has a lot of hang ups about sex and are never fulfilled, forced into the shadows they stay there, searching and searching for a good fuck that will never satisfy them, yadda yadda yadda, while the younger crowd has grown up with gay sex being healthy and natural. It doesn’t take a lot of thinking.

Alan was a shitty Nightcrawler, the “bisexuality” is pure cringe, he desperately wants to appear clever and edgy but only manages the desperation, he is bewilderingly smug, but to each their own.

Unlike some other celebs who I dislike but nevertheless feel a kind of gay kinship, I don’t feel this way with him since he’s always been so desperate to avoid the label.

Who the hell would want to marry Alan Cumming except some gold digging fame whore?

That's like saying you're not guilty by reason of committing the crime.

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